If you understand the fundamental foundation of Step One “We admitted we were powerless over our addiction and that our lives had become unmanageable” you will understand the need for a dedicated support systems. The powerlessness they are referring to in Step One is one of will power, in and around the substance or behaviour a using addict has little to no power over the decision to use. With that being said, the fundamental principal in Step One is the lack of power so this leads us to a question.
What’s the solution, if the addict cannot control his usage, how does he/she stop?
Part of the answer lies in Step Two, we need a power greater than ourselves. What step 2 doesn’t specify is the nature of that power exactly. This is the part where 12 step fellowships and other support systems come into play. There are many people out there who are sceptics about God or anything related to Him. What the 12 step fellowships do suggest is that until you can believe, use the word God as an acronym:
G (good) O (orderly) D (direction), a movement, a way forward. Rely on the group and your sponsor for guidance.
Most addicts felt or feel alone, disconnected and misunderstood, having a place to go where you know there are other just like you who feel the same way is comforting. I’ve often heard people say in meetings, “it’s strange but the minute I walked into the room I knew that I belonged, I felt like I have just arrived home”. That feeling can be the difference with someone staying in the rooms and someone leaving and never returning.
The fact is this, alone and left to his or her own devices an addict will use until he or she dies. With support and support systems in place it gives the user the best opportunity to get clean and live a normal healthy life.